Family & Parenthood 02 (Jan 10 - Aug 10)

Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby winston » Fri Jul 09, 2010 10:19 am

I think Warren Buffett did talked on this subject before.

I think he mentioned that he will leave enough for his children, for them to be able to pursue their passion but not that much, that they dont have to do anything.

I did discuss this subject with a rich uncle about 20 years ago and his reply was "make your billions first" ;)
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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby kennynah » Fri Jul 09, 2010 2:26 pm

to nourish and provide for children are 2 fundamental moral responsibilities shared by all sane parents...

so, it is this level of provisioning that is at discussion here...

what is adequate and sufficient to one, is quite different from another...

MM says he will provide pocket money until his boy reaches NS age..and then no more...

no doubt, others, especially mothers, will heartache seeing her son being grilled under hot sweaty conditions in army and may pamper her son with car, sumptuous meals over weekends, facial and body spars to remove the strains of training, etc.... to this mother, she can both afford and show her love for her son... is this not right? subjective, i guess.... and not one to be judged... and will this lead to this child becoming lesser of a man eventually? i duno...but we tend to equate a luxurious life = a less independent child...

whether parents bequeath their money to their children in part or fully or none, i think, has everything to do with a personal choice... i think, we may have noble ideas now about inculcating correct values and principals in our children...but when it comes to time to say goodbye....not many parents will give away their money to other than their children...

i believe, our children are a continuation of us... and so, most parents will eventually will their assets to their children...no matter how they have become...
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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby winston » Sat Jul 10, 2010 11:22 am

No need to go thru all this if allow them to play in the first place ...


Bringing back the spirit of "When I grow up." by Janet Whitehead

Bringing Back the Spirit of "When I grow up…."

As kids, we knew a lot. We knew the future held a remarkable adventure. We were born knowing our passions and gifts and gravitated easily toward them. We knew joy in the moment. Our job was to play… and it was a darn good job.

There was no amount of rules, regulations, shoulds, or 'have to's' that could stop the dreaming, scheming, imagining and discovering. There were no limits to the enthusiasm and answers when we finished the sentence "When I grow up…"

As kids, we believed in magic. Most everything seemed possible. We were certain that one day we would time travel. Personally, I'm a little baffled that I haven't yet walked through walls.

We knew to stretch like cats and we knew how to experience happiness with our whole body.

We discovered we were good at things we loved – skating, drawing, climbing, building, storytelling. When the world felt out of sorts, we would seek out those activities to find peace.

And then well intentioned grown ups got involved to help us participate in the grown up world. We learned how to fit in, how to sit quietly at a desk, how to think in a linear fashion with timelines, logic, rules and structures.

As a result we learned that the creative and imaginative adventurer in us was 'just play' and that it really did not have much value in the grown up world. Yes it's true: Jumping up in the middle of a meeting yelling "aha," and blurting out an amazing idea that could not be substantiated by statistics, is generally not well received.

And so we forgot the little kid who had all the answers and who could naturally gravitate towards what they loved. In a nutshell… we lost the spirit of "When I grow up…" and gained doubt, uncertainty, rules, fitting in, and simply stated, how not to live our dream.

Darn.

But that's okay. We can rediscover that spirit. Imagine what can happen when the wisdom of an adult mind connects to the wonder and curiosity of the child's mind… the result is nothing less than spectacular.

Okay, I admit.. it gets a bit crazy. At a recent Creative Muse Group, the participants experienced the 'Bea Silly' Muse. The participants are introduced to nine muses. Muses like 'Aha-phrodite' - the muse of passion, paying attention, and possibilities, 'Albert'- the muse of imagination, and 'Bea Silly'. (Based on the work of the brilliant Jill Badonsky. www.themuseisin.com)

Let me tell you about Bea Silly. She is the muse of 'childlike play, laughter and dance.' This muse is introduced as a tool to reconnect to the child self. Participants learn that they can call in their Bea Silly Muse to reignite creative flow, relieve stress, gain energy, connect to their passionate spirit and well.. just plain have fun.

And so, on 'Bea Silly' night, the participants climbed trees, walked on stilts, played hopscotch , hula hooped, gave piggy backs, pretended to be imaginary people, were sassy, silly, and hysterically funny.
They remembered. Having re-experienced their child, they can now bring that energy in and, believe me, they do know how to use it!

But here's the crazy part. At the end of the class, when I, their facilitator, attempted to connect the group to summarize their experience, well! Little brats.. they were interruptive, giggly, throwing paper balls at each other, and generally not at all capable of sitting, listening and summarizing.

Here's a fact: As much as many teachers and caregivers would love to incorporate play and imagination into all of their teachings…. well, it's not an easy thing to bring a group of wildly imaginative children back from the 'land of their right brains' to sitting quietly at their desks.

But here lies the 'spectacular' in connecting the wisdom of adults and their wondrous kid spirit: I could send them home. And they, as adults, get to find their way to bring that child-like genius into all they do. They can add playfulness to their written works, visualize their kid spirit to de-stress, incorporate free thinking into their projects, and energize themselves by climbing trees. I hope I get to hear that they piggy backed their co-workers to a meeting!

And without even noticing how it happened, one day they may notice that they are stretching like cats, feeling happiness in their whole body, and enthusiastically saying, "When I grow up I'm going to…."

Isn't it your turn to go play? Yes, go play.

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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby millionairemind » Sun Jul 11, 2010 3:45 pm

For the kiasu parents out there who rush their kids from one I-can-read class to the next I-can-math class and then to another whatever crap I also can class.....

Rush, Little Baby
How the push for infant academics may actually be a waste of time - or worse

http://www.boston.com/news/globe/magazi ... ?page=full
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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby winston » Mon Jul 12, 2010 7:34 pm

Artificial colorings and flavorings

Ever wonder what effect artificial colorings and flavorings and other food additives might have on your brain?

Here's a possible clue...

In the late 70s, the New York City school system made some changes in school lunches. The lunchrooms for more than 800 schools stopped serving carbonated soda, required the use of whole wheat hamburger and hot dog buns, and banned all prepared foods that contained non-beneficial additives, including artificial colorings and flavorings.

Four years later, researchers analyzed grades from national standardized tests and found that New York kids increased their average academic percentile ranking by more than 15%.

Previously, this ranking had never changed more than 1% in any two-year period.

Of course, a school-age brain is dramatically different than an adult brain. But I'm going take a leap here and assume that just about any brain is going to work better when it isn't polluted with artificial ingredients.

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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby winston » Sun Jul 18, 2010 3:53 pm

The reason the grandchildren will benefit by the launched rockets that you've set forth; is because they're born with no resistance to the rockets of desires that you've launched forth...

You've seen those little ones on computers? They have no problem with that. They were born with computers in their life; they're born cable-ready.

They're already up to speed with what you've launched into the vibrational future. And that's one of the reasons that it's nice when the old ones croak and the new ones come in, because it sort of dilutes the resistance factor that's going on on this planet.

--- Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in Tarrytown, NY on Saturday, May 14th, 2005 #504


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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby kennynah » Sun Jul 18, 2010 4:02 pm

I wonder who attends such "workshops"?
Hopefully, attendees don't end up speaking such profound language.. "launched rockets".. "cable-ready children"... Wahahaha. Later get invited to seow lang keng. Joking...
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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby winston » Wed Jul 21, 2010 2:27 pm

Parents don't want their children to make the wrong decisions, so they don't allow them to make the decision.

And then the child becomes dependent, and then the parent resents that, and it gets off into a blameful thing early on.

If you are encouraging children to do all that they can do -- and not squelching the natural eagerness that is within them, so that they can shine and thrive and show you and themselves how good they are at adapting to physical experience -- then everyone wins.

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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby kennynah » Wed Jul 21, 2010 2:39 pm

everything done in moderation should be better....

some mothers let their children decide what they wana eat for every meal... in the end, they spoil their kids with junk and non-nutritional food....
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Re: Family & Parenthood 2 (Jan 10 - Jul 10)

Postby millionairemind » Wed Jul 21, 2010 3:02 pm

kennynah wrote:everything done in moderation should be better....

some mothers let their children decide what they wana eat for every meal... in the end, they spoil their kids with junk and non-nutritional food....


haha... I agree.. :D

Decision making skills are good.. but must commensurate with the age... the older they are, the more decisions they get to make...

Right now, we decide what he eats everyday... so we make sure he grows up strong, tall and healthy...

But with regards to stuff like CCAs, we let him decide whether he wants them or not.. cos' he will have to stick with them. Just make sure the child has plenty of time to wander and explore... don't overload them with too much homework and extra classes.. these imo are pointless... (I know I am definitely the odd one out among all my friends).
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