Success University 02 (Nov 08 - Jan 09)

[blid2def]

Singapore got a lot of trillionaires actually. They're usually all around us in August.

[millionairemind]

Singapore got a lot of trillionaires actually. They're usually all around us in August.

U crack me up. That kind of trillionaire needs a billion dollars to buy a candy bar from where he's from, judging by the hyperinflation due to rampant burning of trillions paper..

[winston]

Ha ha .. For a while, i was thinking who is the trillionaire becuz the richest man is probably the Sultan of Brunei and he's < US$100b.

I recalled somebody doing a study on the first trillionaire. It was during the dot com bubble and they shortlisted Richard Li.

Btw, do they have inflation where they can use those paper money ? :p

[winston]

Within the seed of your desire is everything necessary for it to blossom to fulfillment. And Law of Attraction is the engine that does the work. Your work is just to give it a fertile growing place in order to expand.

Excerpted from a workshop in Albuquerque, NM on Sunday, May 9th, 1999

All Is Well

[winston]

If you intend to be of assistance, your eye is not upon the trouble but upon the assistance, and that is quite different. When you are looking for a solution, you are feeling positive emotion— but when you are looking at a problem, you are feeling negative emotion.

Excerpted from a workshop in “The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham” on Saturday, July 1st, 2006

All Is Well

[winston]

It Ain't Over Yet by Mike Brescia

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Today's Empowering Quote
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"The most rewarding things you do in life are often the ones that look like they cannot be done."
- Arnold Palmer

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Today's Empowering Question
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"What can I do or say to fix this situation now?"

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Today's Fast Session
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In the movie 'The Godfather,' there's a scene in it where Robert Duvall (Tom) is given some news that Marlon Brando
(Godfather) isn't going to like at all. So as soon as he can walk out the door, he does... to go break the bad news.

The guy who told Tom the bad news wants to know what the hurry was. Tom says that Godfather likes to hear bad news
right away. Well, because Godfather got the information quickly, he was able to take immediate action and get his creative plan under way...

And as a result, he got his way.

Oftentimes, mistakes and bad outcomes can be fixed, but only if we act FAST.

In my business career, when there is a problem with an important issue, I want to know about it as fast as possible.

So I could worry longer?

No, so I could jump in my car and visit or pick up the phone within seconds. Not minutes. Seconds.

One time I did the craziest stunt to keep a client who said they never wanted to work with my book company again.

See, one of my employees didn't program the newest cash register with all our titles before it was packed for an event. So when the customers were lining up to pay for their books, none of their purchases were scanning properly.

So now each title had to be manually entered into the register... a painfully slow process when dozens of people are waiting and waiting, many not very quietly.

Well, my contact person wasn't pleased.

When the phone call came in a month later, telling us we were out, my office immediately called me on my cell phone, I went to the office, picked up all my sales awards, packed them into a large duffle bag and proceeded to this client's office...

...a two and a half hour drive away.

When I walked in the door, you should've seen her face.

Total shock.

She told me that the board made the decision, and that there was no sense in discussing it.

I made the case that if there were anyone in the world she could trust to fix this situation, never to allow this to happen again, it was me. That's when I began pulling the awards out, explaining what they were for. Not to impress her, but to show her it wasn't just talk.

These awards, I explained were the results of total commitment to her and others in positions similar to hers. I was recognized as the best, and that's what I promised her... the best from the best.

I kept the account.

They were worth over $25,000 in sales per year. By immediate action, creativity, and by not accepting defeat, a lot of people won. She won. I won. And all those book lovers she was responsible for won big.

And more importantly, I learned, again, that "It ain't over 'til it's over."

So please, please... when all seems lost, and I know sometimes the situations we often find ourselves in seem hopeless, 90+% of the time it is not hopeless.

But 90% of the people quit.

I feel your frustration. No one is immune from life's crashing waves of defeat and torment. No one.

But the only time we can truly lose is when we quit.

Breakthroughs usually come when it looks the darkest.

And when you find yourself in no-win situations and consistently keep plugging away, you'll succeed so many times that you will learn this, too. "It ain't over 'til it's over."

So pick up the phone, get in your car, write that email, make that apology, do whatever you have to do to fix whatever isn't working.

Now. Yeah, right now.

You'll be so happy you did.

Even if things don't work out this time, you'll have put yourself in a position to win. Do that enough times and you'll be...

A winner in life.

[winston]

Blame: Two Can Play That Game By Annette Vaillancourt, Ph.D.

Why do we always look for someone or something to blame when we are hurt, upset or frustrated? Why is laying fault the first thing on someone's mind when bad things happen? Does there always have to be an aggressor and a victim in every interaction that doesn't go the way one or the other party wants it to? Is retribution the best response to harm or hurt? (It seems to me this could apply both to individual persons, as well as entire nations.)

If we could get inside the mind of someone who constantly blames others (whether they are the aggressor or the victim) this might be the unconscious thought process: "I blame you for my choices and deny that I had other options or choices to make. I am going to react and get rid of this awful feeling as quickly as I can. I don't want to acknowledge that I had my part in making this situation go poorly. I don't want to look at my own behavior or own the negative results I get in life. I want to find fault and blame someone else because I don't want to feel bad about myself or have to make difficult changes or face my fears. I don't want to look at the fact that my behavior has hurt another and/or contributed to my own hurt. I want to say, ‘you made me do it!’

So, I will blame you or circumstances for my drinking, overeating, rages, hitting, infidelity, and lying. I justify it to myself by saying, 'If only you wouldn't have done ________, I wouldn't have done what I did. Look what you made me do!'

In my worldview, retaliation for hurt or harm is justifiable. I don't acknowledge that I am hurt and seek solace, comfort or understanding. Maybe I don't know how. Maybe I see that as weak. Nor do I seek to negotiate for a more satisfying outcome, talk to you about how your behavior has affected me, or courageously remove myself from a toxic situation. Instead I blame you and feel like a helpless victim. I label you as "lazy, unloving, irritating, frigid, weak, irresponsible, evil, unfit, stupid, or crazy." I cover up and attempt to assuage my hurt or fear with violence, self-righteous anger, or self-defeating behaviors, instead of forgiveness, understanding or assertiveness.

I wear my victim stature outwardly. I protest is loudly to my friends and family, seeking their sympathy, asking them to choose sides against you and agree with me that you are bad, that YOU are to blame. Everybody thinks I am a saint (except those who secretly think I'm a fool) for putting up with this!”

As I write this I am keenly aware that everybody loses in this kind of interaction. There is no accountability, no responsibility, no integrity. In the “blame game” it becomes difficult to tell the aggressors from the victims after awhile, as both are pointing fingers at the other and saying, “she/he did that to me!! Everybody feel sorry for me!”

Without personal accountability and responsibility, without stopping to consider how your actions contributed to the unsatisfactory outcome you’re experiencing, where that’s the bombing of the World Trade Center or the fact that you just bounced another check in the family checkbook, the cycle just continues. There’s no stopping it until someone takes responsibility for their behavior and says, “Yes, this part was my doing. I did that to you because I didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t’ want to look at myself and acknowledge my hurt, fear, frustration or my incorrect assumptions. I didn’t want to take the time to listen and respond after some consideration of your side. I just reacted.

Seems to me if we all did this, there's be alot more peace in the world!

“All we are saying, is give peace a chance!” “ John Lennon and Yoko Ono

[winston]

What we feel from most physical beings who are using the word "want" is a yearning, a desire that is currently unfulfilled.

When we use the word "want" we mean it as an object of attention to which I want to focus, a desire that I give my undivided, undiluted, not contradicted attention to, so that the Energy that creates worlds can flow through me toward that
desire.

Excerpted from a workshop in Silver Spring, MD on Saturday, April 19th, 1997

All Is Well

[millionairemind]

The following is a pretty good way to start the day.

I would like to add some 5BX. Basically stretching and doing pushups after you wake up is a good way to start the day. I have been doing that since 18 (when I entered the army). If I missed any single day, I feel sluggish throughout the day.

Six Ways to Ensure a Good Morning
By: LJ Earnest

The key to a great day. Place your keys--and other must-bring stuff--by the door so you won't waste time looking for them just as you're leaving

Are you the type of person who greets the day with enthusiasm or grouchiness? If you are like most people, you'd answer, "It depends..."

What does it depend on? The first hour of the morning.

The level of stress and activity in the morning can set the tone for the whole day. A stressful beginning can make a whole day seem frantic. On the other hand, a relaxed beginning can make a difficult day seem smoother. To wit, the key to a great morning lies in the night before.

By getting things ready the night before, you can simplify the start of your day, and even some of your tasks for the next afternoon! Here are six ways to make the morning flow:

1. Get your clothes ready the night before. By picking out your outfit in the evening, you will have time to notice if something is stained, needs repair, or needs ironing. You can also pick clothing appropriate for the weather. You will be able to bypass the staring-in-the-closet part of the morning, as well as the frantic changing of outfits when you notice the coffee stain on your pants.

2. Organize your out-the-door stuff. If you have a briefcase, get it packed. Ladies, pack your purses. Avoid the last minute scramble to assemble the client presentation notes that can mean leaving something important behind.

3. Put your keys by the door. If you spend five minutes looking for your keys each morning, you will end up spending twenty hours a year looking for keys. Keep your keys in one place--by the door--and you will avoid that last minute hassle.

4. Prepare your meals. As much as possible, automate breakfast and lunch. Skipping meals can lead to poor mental and physical performance later on. On-the-go breakfast "convenience" foods and fast food are loaded with extra calories, sugar, and fat that could lead to sluggishness. So, make your breakfast healthy: lay out a covered bowl of cereal and pull some yogurt to the front of the fridge. This way, you'll get to enjoy the food as you cut down on preparation time. Packing most of a lunch the night before can sometimes mean the difference between a healthy inexpensive lunch or a lunch of fast food. Put together some veggies and fruit or make a sandwich. You will avoid the afternoon slump of energy and save money.

5. Set up automated tasks. We live in an age of "convenience machines." If you wash a load of clothes while you are at work, bring the laundry basket to the washer the night before. If you will cook dinner in a slow cooker during the day, get the ingredients assembled and prepped, so all you have to do is plug and go. Having machines work for us is a wonderful convenience, but only we can make the most out of what they can do.

6. Help your children get ready. Help children pick out their clothes, assemble school work, and pack lunches the night before. This will eliminate the added calls of "Mom, have you seen my...?" or "Dad, I need these papers signed and a check for today..." This alone will take a great deal of frantic energy out of the out-the-door time.

You have more time to think and double-check when you prepare in the evening. None of the tips suggested above will take very long--you just have to invest about half an hour each night to get them done, and you will reap the benefits by a smooth, stress-free morning.

[winston]

Empowering Questions = Wisdom by Mike Brescia

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Today's Empowering Quote
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"I had six honest serving men-they taught me all I knew: Their names were Where and What and When and Why and How
and Who." -- Rudyard Kipling

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Today's Empowering Question
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"What kind of questions have I been asking myself in the last hour?"

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Today's Fast Session
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Notice that Rudyard Kipling didn't say that those questions taught him quite a bit. He said they taught him all he knew.

And he knew quite a bit!

You are asking questions all day long just through the normal process of thinking...

And depending on the questions you ask consciously (which programs your unconscious mind to go on asking them in the
future without your conscious knowledge), you either experience emotions and develop attitudes that support you in getting what you want in life, or you experience anxiety and worry.

If you are depressed and anxious and have thoughts of worry about what horrible thing is going to happen next, you must look to your thoughts. Watch them. Too much research exists to conclude anything but this...

If you focus your thoughts on empowering outcomes and ask yourself questions that give you answers that inspire you, then you'll find that your anxiety and panic attacks will reduce. And with enough practice, they can even go away. I don't care if you've had chronic depression for decades.

This works.

Your thoughts create chemicals- either depressants or stimulants. Studies prove that when rotten pictures are shown to people, their brains produce rotten chemicals on the spot... The same ones that pharmaceutical companies make when they develop depressants. How do you think they developed these chemicals? They study depressed people!!!

Stimulants are made the same way. That's how many of these drugs are first discovered. Happy pictures, great questions, emotions of elation and joy.

Fast! Let's study the chemicals we were just able to produce in that brain!

We just get too many emails from people, who've been depressed and living in panic for years, that have been able to change their lives entirely by changing their questions and their affirmations (beliefs).

This daily letter alone has helped to transformed thousands. And all it does is change your focus for a while and urges you to continue your new focus... Because if you do something enough, it becomes a habit.

You can try to escape your problems by changing your environment, but... you take your thoughts with you!

Start asking yourself questions that empower. To make this stick, you'll have to write them down and read them throughout the day. Yes, even if you're rich and famous.

Questions like these:

How can I do a better job?
What is really cool about me?
What do I like about my job?
What's neat about my kids?
Who loves me and who do I love?
What's useful about this "problem?"
What can the next hour mean to me if I get this task done?

Each of these questions, and there are literally thousands more you can ask consciously, has answers. And the answers
make you feel good. Why? Because they force you to focus on what's right. What's good.

Does it mean that your life suddenly becomes perfect? Of course not. But when you are looking in the right directions, you'll see just far enough to get encouraged. Even if your goal is only to not slit your wrist today. Hey, you have to start somewhere, right?

Every day that you achieve your modest goal is confirmation that you can do more. And then more...

And when you follow that accomplishment up with the question, "How did I do that?" you get an empowering answer. An answer that teaches you how to do it again later.

This is why Rudyard Kipling could say the statement above with heartfelt conviction...

And why I'm optimistic for you today... All day. And every day.

Write questions down like the ones above in any area of life that is troubling you.

Read them often. A few times every day.

And you absolutely, positively CANNOT fail to make each day of your life more fun, no matter what outside stressors are working on you.

And isn't that how you want today and the rest of your life to be? (Now THAT was an empowering question!)