Psychology 02 (Feb 14 - Dec 25)

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7 Brutal Truths That Will Make You a Better Person

By Heidi Prieve

1. Nobody is actually too busy to respond to you.
2. Everyone has his or her own best interests at heart.
3. You are never going to please everybody.
4. The world owes you absolutely nothing.
5. The prize for arguing on behalf of your restrictions is getting to keep them.
6. Your actions define you, not your thoughts.
7. Nobody is coming to save you from your life.

Source: Tranquil Monkey

http://www.mindpowernews.com/BrutalTruths.html

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5 Ways to Read Other People’s Energy and Emotions

Source: Life Code Coach

http://www.mindpowernews.com/ReadEnergy.html

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A CIA Self-Help Book: How to Make Friends and Interrogate People

By Sam Leith

1) An elicitation is a monologue, not a dialogue

That means implying that you already know what they’ve done, you completely understand the pressures that led to their error of judgment, and if they take you into their confidence, this whole silly misunderstanding can be fixed.

2) Cultivate short-term thinking

3) Do no harm

4) Good cop/bad cop
... is an invention of Hollywood movies. It doesn’t work. The whole point is to make them feel you’re on their side.

Source: The Guardian

http://www.mindpowernews.com/CIATruth.htm

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How to Tell If Someone Is Lying

By Stuart Wolpert

Source: UCLA Newsroom

http://www.mindpowernews.com/Lying.html

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http://www.bbc.com/future/story/2018022 ... or-a-loner

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20 Things You Need To Let Go To Be Happy

By Ashley Fern

Source: Elite Daily

http://www.mindpowernews.com/LetGoBeHappy.htm

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Hope and Fear

by Vishal Khandelwal

Seneca wrote -
Limiting one's desires actually helps to cure one of fear.
'Cease to hope … and you will cease to fear.' …

Widely different [as fear and hope] are, the two of them march in unison like a prisoner and the escort he is handcuffed to.

Fear keeps pace with hope … both belong to a mind in suspense, to a mind in a state of anxiety through looking into the future.

Both are mainly due to projecting our thoughts far ahead of us instead of adapting ourselves to the present.

Source: Seeking Alpha

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Dealing with the Scary World

by Vishal Khandelwal

In Aaron Thier's wonderful new novel, The World Is A Narrow Bridge, there is a scene where Eva and Murphy, the two young prophets of the god Yahweh, are sent on a mission that terrifies them.

As they begin the mission, Eva and Murphy are approached by Satan, who has been sent by Yahweh, to give them their final instructions.

After Satan gives the instructions, he begins to leave for his next mission:
"You have to go so soon?" says Eva. "Right away?"
She looks devastated. Murphy, too, is unhappy. Satan frowns and chews on his lip. He doesn't like to leave them like this.

"I'll teach you a trick," he says. "I'll teach you an incantation that will protect against despair. If things are dark, and I'm not around to help, you can repeat it a few times and it'll help.

It would go something like this: 'The world is a narrow bridge, and the most important thing is not to be afraid.'"

Murphy and Eva both repeat this very slowly. Eva says, "That's lovely."

Satan nods. "Just repeat it to yourself when things are bad. You could try different translations too. 'Do not make yourself afraid, the whole world is a narrow bridge.'

The point is this life we're living-this world we inhabit-is a scary place. If you peer over the side of a narrow bridge, you can lose your heart to continue.

You freeze up. You sit down. So too with life. If we think too much about the journey we have to make, the one that begins with the trauma of birth and ends with the tragedy of death, the one that is so perilous and unpredictable, we'll never make it.

The important thing is that we are not afraid. That we don't overthink things. That we don't give way to fear, as the Stoics tell us over and over again.

Just repeat it to yourself-The world is a narrow bridge and I will not be afraid-and keep going. Like the thousands of generations who have come before you.

Source: Seeking Alpha

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How to Respond Thoughtfully

By witnessing how we are, in our body, heart, and mind, we become armed with the necessary information needed to respond thoughtfully and with care.

—Jill Satterfield, “Meditation in Motion

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The Source of Forgiveness

The source of forgiveness … lies in the realization that we are not solely products of what was done to us, the realization that there is something essential within us, that is not necessarily tarnished by calamitous experience.

—Mark Epstein, “Beyond Blame”