Psychology 01 (Nov 08 - Jan 14)

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How to Tell If Someone Is Lying

UCLA psychologist helps law enforcement agencies tell truth from deception

By Stuart Wolpert

http://www.mindpowernews.com/Lying.htm











Source: UCLA Newsroom

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The Art of Deception

Fact is no longer a factor. As technology has developed, websites like YouTube and Vimeo make it possible for anyone to broadcast information, even if the information they express is based on lies.

In an academic environment, a paper must have detailed references according to a set of university standards, but in a film, anything goes.

The Art of Deception is an explanation of how a documentary is constructed to communicate truth, brainwash the audience and push an agenda.

http://www.mindbendingvideos.com/the-art-of-deception/

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The Art of Deception is an explanation of how a documentary is constructed to communicate truth, brainwash the audience and push an agenda.

pap is very good at this...

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Psychopaths Rule The World


They claim to act on our behalf, but they do not answer to us.

They kill in the interests of the state, not the people.

They rationalize it. They convince themselves of obvious contradictions and shrug it of without the slight bit of irony.


http://www.mindbendingvideos.com/psycho ... the-world/

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How to deal with your fears?

All negative feelings are related to fear. At the same time, all positive ones are related to love.

Thus, doubt, anger, envy, vengeance, shame and jealousy, are a form of fear. On the other hand where-else trust, compassion, joy, gratitude, appreciation, are associated to love.

All emotions are an important part of ourselves and should be welcome and never avoided. When you detect a feeling coming to you, as it happens hundreds of time each day, let them in, do not resist them, as to do so is to generate stress.

The best way to react to negative feelings of fear and doubt, is to accept them as they come in to your body energy centers. As this happen, internalize and experience the tension in your chest, pit of the stomach or throat; analyze your thoughts do not resist them.

Remember, you can never change the person or event causing the pain. You can either react in anger and blame yourself or others for what is taking place or you can react with love and trust toward yourself, another person or the circumstance generating the fear.

Source: www.wisdomtips.com
- Walter Parsons from USA.

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3 Evil Ways to Manipulate People By Melanie Pinola

1. Scaring The Hell Out of You: The Fear-Then-Relief Procedure

This fear-then-relief manipulation technique is most popularly portrayed in the classic bad cop/good cop routine: one person scares the hell out of you, another saves you, and then you're more willing to talk.

You see this in everyday life, too—from the fear tactics of insurance agents to bad managers who suggest your job is on the line, backtrack, and then ask you to work overtime.


2. Making You Feel Guilty: Social Exchange

Examples: A co-worker could remind you about that time they bailed you out big time in the past, then use that as leverage every time he/she needs something.

Or someone who loaned you money or knows a secret of yours could continually blackmail you into doing what they wan.


3. Priming You With a Small Request: The Foot-in-the-Door Technique

What it is: This manipulation technique is evil because it's so tricky, subtle, and simple. With the foot-in-the-door method, someone asks you to do a very small and easy request and then follows up with the real request.

Examples: NPR gives an example of a panhandler who asks you for the time, then asks you to spare a buck. By getting you to say yes to one request, you're more likely to say yes to a second one.

Avoiding These Manipulations

http://www.mindpowernews.com/EasyManipulation.htm

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Fear

It does not matter whether you are living in a country where there are some frequent terrorist attacks, or in a country where there are random acts of violence.

It does not matter what the culture is — it is only the feeling of vulnerability that ever puts you into a vibrational harmony with that which you fear.

When you realize that by working to achieve your feeling of Well-being, it is then impossible for you to ever rendezvous with anything other than Well-being — that is the only place that freedom will ever be.

---Abraham

Excerpted from the workshop in San Francisco, CA on August 18, 2001


Source: www.abraham-hicks.com

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The Overview Effect

On the 40th anniversary of the famous ‘Blue Marble’ photograph taken of Earth from space, Planetary Collective presents a short film documenting astronauts’ life-changing stories of seeing the Earth from the outside – a perspective-altering experience often described as the Overview Effect.

The Overview Effect, first described by author Frank White in 1987, is an experience that transforms astronauts’ perspective of the planet and mankind’s place upon it. Common features of the experience are a feeling of awe for the planet, a profound understanding of the interconnection of all life, and a renewed sense of responsibility for taking care of the environment.

‘Overview’ is a short film that explores this phenomenon through interviews with five astronauts who have experienced the Overview Effect. The film also features insights from commentators and thinkers on the wider implications and importance of this understanding for society, and our relationship to the environment.

http://www.mindbendingvideos.com/the-overview-effect/

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The Most Important Moment By Alex Green

A marriage, a friendship, a close family relationship... All of our important relationships are built on countless moments, innumerable interactions that either build qualities of trust, joy, and respect - or undermine those qualities.

Today I want to show you what is arguably the most important moment for building a trusting, satisfying, loving relationship. We can often think that what makes a difference in a romantic relationship, or our relationship with our kids, or other friends and relatives, are the big things; the romantic getaway for the weekend, or the great gift that we buy.

... But there is a moment that packs more leverage, more meaning, and more potential for doing good - or harm - than almost any other: The moment when someone we care about asks for our attention.

Changing how we respond in that moment, can enliven the entire atmosphere of our relationships. To understand why, we must first look at what happens to us when we're ignored.

One of the most severe punishments for a prisoner is solitary confinement; one of the most hurtful things kids do on a playground is to ditch another kid; one of the most frustrating and hurtful things that friends can do to each other is to give "the silent treatment." These are all experiences of social isolation; and social isolation is the strongest psychological risk factor for disease. More that stress, more than anything else.

Of course the moments I'm talking about are not as severe as total social isolation, but they are threads of the same cloth. Research shows how even mild experiences can have a huge effect:

Pedestrians who walked past a stranger without getting any acknowledgment from that stranger reported a substantially lower sense of connection to other people - just from that one moment.

People riding an elevator who were completely ignored by the stranger next to them moved from feelings of happiness toward feelings of hurt.

In a computer simulation of a game of catch, when people were not thrown the ball for just five minutes, they felt more sadness, despair and hostility, and less self-esteem, sense of belonging, sense of control, and meaning in life... in five minutes. With a stranger. Even with a stranger they were told they would not like.

Imagine how much more intense it is for us to be ignored by somebody we know and care about.

And yet most of us are unaware of how often we do this.

It is so easy to get caught up in whatever it is that we're doing, and miss these moments of contact - the moments when the people we care about ask for our attention. We usually think that it will be just fine to respond a little later when we're done with our task.

We do this not because we're rotten people, or because we don't care about our mate or our children or our friends, but because these moments can be easy to miss, and we don't realize the power that's contained in them.

Sometimes when I tell my clients about this, they say something to the effect of: "But if I respond, won't I have to do what the other person is asking? What if I'm busy? What if I don't want to do what they're asking? Do I have to always drop everything whenever someone wants my attention?"

Let me clarify something that will make doing this much easier, and much more attractive. When somebody - our mate, our child, a friend - asks for our attention, all we have to do to make a better relationship is within that moment when we turn toward them and acknowledge their request. We don't have to do what they're asking us to do.

Sure, it's nice if we can, and we want to follow through and be more involved as often as possible; but that's not the most important thing. What's most important is the initial immediate response.

Say for example your wife asks if you could help her to do a chore, but you have work to finish, and you can't reasonably take the time right now to help her.

Just physically turn toward her, and say something like, "I'd like to help, but I have to finish what I'm doing. I'll be done in about an hour, and I'd be happy to help you then." Or, "I'm sorry honey; I've got my hands full, and I really can't help you now."

Or what if your son wants to tell you about an idea he has, but you're really busy? Turn toward him and take a moment to say something like, "I really want to hear about your idea, but I have some things I need to take care of right now that I can't put off, could you tell me about it when I'm finished?"

Now, they may be disappointed, but they won't feel ignored.

The moment that matters most is the initial response, when we physically turn toward the other person and respond to their request for our attention. In that moment we are communicating volumes. We're saying that we care about them, that we hear them, we see them, and that they matter to us.

On the other hand, when we don't respond, we're saying something more like, "I don't see you, I don't hear you, I don't care about you, and you don't matter to me." All in a moment.

One of the most important and gratifying experiences that we give one another in a relationship is visibility. The experience of being seen is a deep human need, and our closest relationships are where we meet that need. The more we share these moments, the more resilient our relationships become.

When we have the kind of base that is built by countless friendly, kind, and playful interactions, then when the inevitable hard conflicts or misunderstandings come, they are much less daunting - because they are exceptions to the overall spirit that we've created over time. These smaller habits are also what build the foundation that can make the bigger positive events much more fun and satisfying.

There is more to building a great relationship of course. But establishing this simple habit of immediately responding to a request for attention can act as a powerful positive catalyst. It binds with and enhances every other positive thing we do; it can significantly improve your relationships...

... And it only takes a moment.

Source: ETR

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Top 10 Psychological Studies That Can Improve Your Life

By Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D., author of Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals


http://www.mindpowernews.com/Top10Psych.htm