by winston » Tue May 17, 2011 7:18 am
Let Go of Blame - By Mike Robbins
Here are a few things you can do or think about as you practice letting go of blame in your own life:
1) Take inventory of who and what you blame. Start to notice, with empathy and compassion (i.e. without judging yourself), who and what you blame the most in your life. Maybe it's your work, your spouse, your past, your co-workers or clients, the state of the world, or other things or people.
The more specific and honest you can be about the focus of your blame, the more ability you’ll have to let go. Remember, some of this blame may be overt (direct, and easy to notice) and, some of it may be more covert (hidden, subtle, and "justified" in such a way that it seems "true.")
2) Inquire into what it would be like to let go of blame. Start to ask yourself, especially with the specific people or situations where blame comes up a lot, what it would be like, look like, and feel like to let go of blame in your life. Allow yourself to imagine this, think about it, talk about it, and ponder it.
Regardless of how easy or difficult you think it would be, just allow yourself to imagine your life without blame. Inquiry is a powerful tool when we use it consciously like this.
3) Take responsibility for your reactions and emotions. In just about every instance, the person (including us) or situation that we blame brings about a specific emotion or reaction (or set of emotions and reactions) that we don't like.
Instead of blaming, what if we took responsibility for our reactions and emotions, and allowed ourselves to vulnerably acknowledge and express ourselves fully.
As Eleanor Roosevelt so brilliantly said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Letting go of blame allows us to be free, to take back our power, and to avoid the trap of thinking that someone or something else has the ability to dictate our experience of life.
Whether our life is "wonderful" or "difficult" is always up to us.
Source: selfgrowth.com
It's all about "how much you made when you were right" & "how little you lost when you were wrong"