I've seen this happening very frequently at restaurants - parents letting their kids play with the iPhone 100% of the time. This also happens with most of my friends/colleagues/peers who have kids - the iPhone is used as a distraction. I personally feel this is very unhealthy and so far I never let my girl near any such electronic device, for fear of her getting "hooked". OK, maybe I am just too old-school.
The Straits Times
Oct 10, 2010
iPhone, the new nanny By Marc Lim
As one of the few remaining singles left among my peers, I've long accepted that any outing with friends these days means having the children in tow.
But what I'm still sometimes annoyed with are the interruptions.
Lunch, tea or dinner would never be complete without needing to fuss over the young'uns.
Inevitably, the adult conversations would be put on hold while mummy or daddy (depends on whose turn it is) attends to:
a) a soaked diaper
b) a cranky child
c) 'Timmy poke my eye'
d) all of the above
Recently though, my friends have come up with a solution to our conversation-killers - the iPhone.
A solution to boredom, a source of conflict resolution, a pacifier which helps put children to sleep, the iPhone is your one- stop-shop.
I remember being in awe at the power the gadget has on kids during a recent gathering at my friend James' home. It's never pretty when his son gets into one of his epic battles with our friend's four-year-old.
It almost always ends up with the two kids having to be pulled apart and be told to sit in a corner for 'alone time', but not before violent protests and potential ear-drum damaging screaming.
But on this occasion, all that was needed for peace to resume was both dads whipping out their iPhones.
I've never seen anything like it.
One second, the kids resemble hobbit-like transformers ready to rearrange the other's face, the next, they're sitting next to each other watching Barney and Ben 10 on their respective screens.
'There's no conflict it can't solve,' said James of his new 'nanny'.
'Well, except, a soaked diaper.'
Amazingly, this latest must-have among young parents doesn't just work on older children. Babies as young as 12 to 18 months are also charmed by the gadget.
Another friend says 'phone' was one of the first few words her daughter uttered, after mama, dada and milk.
I don't recall any point in history - well maybe not since ET phoned home - that 'phone' was such an important word in the English vocabulary.
Her mother sees it as an accomplishment worthy enough to parade in front of relatives. Uncles and aunties would gather round the cot during nap time to wait for the moment little Andrea cosies up before she breaks into the cutest: 'Mama, phone, pwease?'
Cue the 'awwws'.
Maybe I need to be a father to understand this, but I see it more as an addiction. How else can you explain the iPhone being a must-have for nap and sleep time?
'She falls asleep better to Barney', is her mother's rationale.
But my concern is that while one can wean a child off a pacifier or drinking milk from a bottle, I don't see the same happening for electronics. In fact, I see it getting worse.
The iPhone at two, Nintendo DS at five, Xbox by 10, full-blown geek devoid of any social skills by the time he reaches his teens.
Of course, I exaggerate. But one can see how it will be a sad day if even half the scenario comes true.
Youngsters these days are spending more time on computers and away from playgrounds. I was impressed when my 10-year-old nephew spoke highly of the football skills of Pele and Gerd Muller.
'Uncle, I can even do a bicycle kick,' he enthused. I shared in his excitement, for all of 10 seconds, until he told me that his moment of football genius was on the Xbox while playing with the Fifa All-Stars.
I then made the mistake of asking him why he doesn't go out and play the game.
His reply: 'But it's so hot!'
Call me a student of the old school, but I still believe kids should be out there, climbing trees, catching spiders, getting bruises.
In today's world, children getting into computer and hand-held games are inevitable. Do we need to hasten the process?
Yet, I can understand the fascination with the iPhone, or for that matter, the iPad. One needs only to type in 'kids and iPad' on YouTube to see what a hit the phone and the tablet are among the young.
They're interactive, full of colours, easy to use - what's there not to like?
My friend has even come up with a new mantra: An Apple a day keeps the children at bay.
I'm, however, not 100 per cent sold. I hope to have my own children some day and can't see how getting them hooked on electronics so early is good. But if the good people at Apple can teach an iPad to change a diaper, I just might reconsider.
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