Psychology 02 (Feb 14 - Dec 25)

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How to persuade anyone of anything in just ten seconds

by James Altucher

Source: The Altucher Confidential

http://thecrux.com/how-to-persuade-anyo ... n-seconds/

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How to Hack Into Your Flow State and Become Superhuman

Can being "In The Zone" more often turn our Good-Enough into Above-Average Work?

By Stephanie Vozza

Source: Fast Company

http://www.mindpowernews.com/HackFlow.htm

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Flow, the Secret to Happiness

The Psychology of Optimal Experience — asks, “What makes a life worth living?” Noting that money cannot make us happy, he looks to those who find pleasure and lasting satisfaction in activities that bring about a state of “flow.”


http://www.mindbendingvideos.com/flow-t ... happiness/

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Break the cycle by Kim Davidson

A few techniques to break the cycle of anger in a relationship consist of doing something out of character.

An example would be to intentionally slow down the process by going for a walk by yourself. Try moving your body or give yourself some space.

If needed, take a weird or unreasonable action; laugh where you would usually cry or swear, and most important try to imagine a peaceful scenario.

The most important is to try to do something out of character at the precise time that the anger breaks out.

Do this routine every time the situation arises.

Source: wwwiwisdomtips.com

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Fears

If you want to learn more about a person, ask them what scares them the most.

What was the scariest movie they saw or what book gives them the shivers? You probably find that what a person saw as a child affects them still today.

Some people I know will not go swimming in the ocean because they saw Jaws the Movie when they were children.

Knowing another’s fear will give you a better insight into that person.

- Eyelen Piderit

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How to be Assertive Without Being a JERK by Dharma Rose

Do you have a hard time articulating your needs…

And speaking up for what it is that you want?

If your answer is yes, chances are you could use a little growth in the assertiveness department

First off, it’s important to note that being assertive and being aggressive are two totally different things.

Being assertive = respectfully speaking up for yourself and the things that are important to you with power, clarity and confidence.

Being pushy or aggressive (a jerk) = trying to exert your influence and get what you want in a disrespectful or controlling way, often at the expense of other people.

See the difference?

No one wants to be a jerk. But you, your preferences and your values matter!

And the more comfortable you feel using the power of your voice to share all three of these things with the people around you, the more personally empowered and fulfilled you’ll feel in your life.

To help you get there, here are 3 tips on how to become more assertive:

STEP 1: Make small requests

You wouldn’t try to run a marathon without going on a few practice runs first, right?

Well, the same goes with building your “assertiveness” muscle!

Start by making a few small insignificant requests, like asking to move to a different table at a restaurant… or asking a store clerk to check in the back for a different color or size of a specific item you like, for example.

Then, gradually work up to making bigger and bolder requests of your friends, family and co-workers, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll feel much more confident speaking up for yourself and your desires!

STEP 2: Get comfortable saying “NO”

The #1 reason most people are afraid to say “no” is FEAR…

Fear of appearing selfish or rude, fear of hurting another person’s feelings, fear of conflict or fear of lost opportunity.

But being able to say “no” clearly and confidently is the hallmark of a healthy human being.

You see, healthy people have healthy boundaries, and part of being healthy is occasionally saying no to requests, situations or people that you can’t or don’t want to accommodate.

It’s ok to say “no” sometimes! In fact it’s necessary for your own self care.

(For 5 simple tips on how to say no with ease, power and grace, keep an eye out for my next email coming to you early next week.)

STEP 3: Silence the Guilt Monster

Would you feel guilty turning down a request from a friend to drive them to the airport… even though you just couldn’t make it work due to your work schedule?

Would you feel bad sending a plate of food back to the kitchen at a restaurant because it was cold… or worse yet, you found a hair in it?

If so, you may have a wee little problem with the Guilt Monster.

Somewhere (perhaps during childhood) you’ve probably been programmed that putting others before yourself is what “good people” do.

But this isn’t always the case.

There’s nothing enlightened about overextending yourself or, worse yet, harming yourself emotionally, financially or spiritually for the sake of others…

So if you do start to feel guilty as a result of declining someone else’s request, thank the Guilt Monster for sharing and then do your best to let the feeling go.

Instead of always putting other people before yourself, consider that taking care of your own needs first (which sometimes means occasionally saying no) will ultimately help you give your best to others and the world.

So today… and this week… I challenge you to practice speaking up for what you want, practice saying no and practice self care.

You and the things that are important to you are worth it!

Source: Abundant Entrepreneur

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3 Simple Mind Tricks to Control Any Conversation

By Cameron Crawford

Source: Black Ops Hypnosis 2.0

http://www.mindpowernews.com/AlphaCommand.htm

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How to Force People To Do Anything

(and Have Them Thank You For It)

By Esther Inglis-Arkell

Source: io9.com

http://www.mindpowernews.com/ForcePeople.htm

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Conquer fears like: public speaking, heights, claustrophobia and other anxieties, in five easy steps
by Dan Greenhill


When anxiety and fear comes in follow these five steps:
1.- Anticipate, permit and accept that fear will take place.
2.- As you feel anxious focus in the present, use all your senses to detect your surroundings.
3.- Rate your fear from 1 to 10 and feel it as it goes up and down.
4.- Question yourself, “What am I feeling?”, “ What exactly is happening to me?”
5.- Learn to perform with fear, feel good about yourself, and accept fear as normal.


Source: www.wisdomtips.com

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Feeling overwhelmed? Read this now…

by Shane Parrish

Source: Farnam Street

http://thecrux.com/if-your-life-is-too- ... 37gMXBU%3D